Straight women at a gay bar

So gin makes you cry and tequila makes you gay? Good stuff. I know Rita Ora, Cardi B, et al. But the themes of this song still do sum up the mentalities of a lot of straight women—mentalities I see in action at gay bars constantly. Just say no! This further perpetuates the idea that lesbianism can be something for men too.

Secondly, by kissing for men and using lesbianism as a way to be sexy or sexually interesting, you cement the idea that lesbian sex is still something men can objectify and take pleasure in. If you want to go to a queer event to make out with ladies because you want to for all the right reasons, then mazel!

Lesbianism is like the gateway drug to the more serious Class A: sex with men lol—if having less orgasms is your thing then sure, sure. Nice try though. Well no, this is too gay for me then. Spoiler alert: going down on a straight woman is still pretty gay, everyone.

So, make sure you check your boundaries next time you suggest another girly sleepover with your lesbian couple friends OK? There are so many flavours of gay! Some queer women are cis, some are trans, some are non-binary.

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Asking questions is OK too. Some feminists are lesbians, some are butch, some are hairy some are whatever. You should still have their backs because chances are that butch hairy lesbian feminist that you disassociate yourself from has been fighting for your rights for a long time. Not woman specific but please stop.

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